5 things you can do NOW to deal with change
Have you ever been in a situation when life finally seems to calm down and then suddenly BOOM something unexpected happens? Or on the other hand, have you ever felt stuck in a rut, unable to move out of your current life situation?
That’s exactly what happened to Rachel*, one of our retreat guests. Life was pretty easy-going, husband, two young kids at school, good job and a nice home. But quite suddenly her company was going through a major redundancy.
Change can come to us in 3 ways; we can choose to change our situation (decide to change careers); a crisis in our lives leads to a sudden change (loss of a loved one); or a change happens by chance (unexpectedly meeting someone you end up falling in love with).
Build up your resilience to change for a happier life
“For those who seek novelty, change is usually easier to swallow, while those who feel most comfortable with the status quo will find life transitions more challenging.” Dr Sirini Pillay
Whether we like it or not, change will happen to us. Having an open mindset, being open to new experiences and seeing changing events as opportunities rather than threats will reduce your anxiety and feeling of overwhelm. Practicing my tips below will also ultimately help you to achieve the goals that you set for yourself.
So here are my top 5 things you can do NOW to go through a change:
Mantra “Everything changes all the time”
Make this your daily Mantra: “Everything changes all the time”.
The only constant in your life is change. Remind yourself time and time again that everything is constantly in motion. You are also changing and growing older every day. Your body is changing as you get older, your state of mind is constantly shifting as you go through different life experiences.
The people around you are also changing; your family and friends are going through changes as much as you. The world around you is moving and shifting.Even if your life may seem pretty constant and stable, change no matter how small is always there.
It seems so obvious to mention that we’re all growing older everyday but repeating this mantra will really help you to have a positive mindset when change inevitably happens.
This mantra has helped me so much when I was unwell for two years with digestive issues just a few years ago. When I was despairing, not knowing where to turn after so many failed attempts, this mantra “Everything changes all the time” kept me going, looking for a solution and never losing hope of getting better.
The more we are attached to something, the harder it is to let go of. You hear stories of men in Japan committing suicide when they are fired from their job. They have become their job. They have attached themselves so much to their career, their job and their company that they don’t know what to do when suddenly the one thing that they so identified with is suddenly taken away from them.
Coming back to the mantra above, “Everything changes all the time”, will help you to practice non-attachment to your possessions, your roles in life, your business, your career etc. Nothing in life is permanent.
As an example, your role as a parent changes as your kids grow older. Being so attached to your role as a parent to your young kids to the extent that you solely identify with it will make it harder for you when your kids get older, become more independent and leave home.
Get REGULARLY out of your comfort zone
We are programmed to stick to what we know. Most of us do not like changing our daily habits, especially if everything seems to be working out ok.
Rachel was hesitant to try out Stand-up Paddle boarding on our retreat. The idea of going out in the open sea made her very anxious. She gave it a go anyway and with the help of our very patient guide Luke, she managed to stand up on the board and paddle further out than the big boats. This was a real turning point for Rachel, it dawned on her that she was letting her fear take control of the situation. After her retreat, she started using her free time to try new water sports and now loves SUP.
The trick is to get out of your comfort zone often. Practice small steps daily so when big changes unexpectedly happen in your life or you are ready for a major life move, you will find the transition less challenging.
For more on this read my Blog: Feeling Alive, 5 easy tips on how to feel alive
Have the courage to fail
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” Marianne Williamson
Have the courage to fail! When was it the last time you didn't try something due to your fear of failure?
Fear of failure stops so many potentially successful people from starting new projects. Fear shows up when we live too much in our heads. Taking risks is a part of life and taking calculated risks and showing up everyday without letting fear stopping us or getting in our way is a much more authentic way to live.
We are unconsciously scared of our own power. If you are operating at your maximum potential, imagine what you can achieve!
Ask this question and journal your thoughts: If fear does not show up for me what can I now manifest?
Embrace the change
Accept it, do not resist it.
Look at the benefits that can emerge from your new situation, even if all you can think of is pain and loss of “what was” at first.
Focus on the things you can control and influence rather on what you cannot control.
Rachel had no control or even influence on her company’s redundancy decision. She could have either (1) act as a victim and feel sorry for herself for losing her job or (2) embrace her freedom and free time to think of her next steps and even see her redundancy as an opportunity to have a career which is more aligned to her values and dreams.
Writing down the benefits in your journal will really help you to start letting go of the past and embracing the new possibilities that this change can bring.
How a regular yoga practice prepares you to face change
One of the things we practice in yoga is to sit with the discomfort (not pain) during a challenging posture. We sit and breathe deeply in the posture long enough to start releasing and letting go. You have the skills and choice to take your yoga practice out of the mat and into your life. Your yoga practice will help you face new experiences and unexpected changes in your life in a more conscious and present way.
The 5 tips I outlined are all very simple and easy to start practicing NOW. In summary, it is all due to your mindset. Even if you practice 2 or 3 of my tips (I suggest starting with the first one), you will feel more empowered to take on the next challenge that will inevitably come your way.
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On our retreat, Rachel tried Stand-up paddle boarding, she pampered herself with massages and holistic therapies and made sure she got plenty of downtime and grounding during her week away, without any guilt. The result? She is an empowered woman, happier, healthier and also physically stronger having taken the decision to start a business which she has always dreamed of pursuing.
Leave me a comment below: I would love to hear your experiences on this topic. Did any of these tips resonate with you?
*Rachel is not her real name to preserve the guest’s privacy